Saturday 19 November 2011

When All is Said and Done... part II




The dress was bought...
The church was booked...
The bridal party was chosen...
The seating arrangements were planned...
The wedding was cancelled.

You move back home...
You're all alone...

What happens now?

All girls, early on in life, dream of meeting the one they could spend the rest of their lives with. We hope and pray we meet him sooner rather than later.

For us, that happened at 20 years old. We met them and a year later, we moved in. Three years later the wedding plans began. What we didn't see coming was that for us, there was no such thing as happily ever after. Even the "happily" part was difficult to imagine.

Skip ahead to present day. 5 years down the track.
The 20 year old, once so full of hope and fairytale dreams is now 25 and back at square one.
Only this time, the fairytale dreams are nothing but distant memories, and in their place are cynicism and a lack of faith in men. Scratch that, it's zero faith.

So, what now? Rebuilding a life you had left behind at 20 to go build
a brand new one with some guy you once believed was "the one" (*vomit*) is no easy feat. Actually, you have no idea where to begin.

We try and replace them with the first guys that pay us attention, only to find that these guys were the very same ones that made you feel grateful when you were in a relationship, when you believed there were no good single guys left.

The career path you once wanted but abandoned to be more "settled and realistic" is now harder to reach, due to your age and having to compete with people who were just like you, all those years ago.

In all our cynicism after meeting a "great" guys recently -who, mind you, turned out to be the most disappointing thus far- we shrugged it off and said "Easy come, easy go".
In response to this, a very smart lady said:
"Easy come, easy go: that's a fact of
life. What you have to do now is learn how to say 'NEXT'".

We took this in. She was right. Life is too short to dwell... Life's too short to be bitter. Rebuilding your life and relationships is never going to be easy, but sometimes, we have no choice but to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and move the f--- on.

And when it comes to relationships and guys...
All girls, early on in life, dream of meeting the one they could spend the rest of their lives with. We hope and pray we meet him sooner rather than later...
But now that we've met the ones we could possibly spend the rest of my life with, we can't wait to meet the ones we can't spend the rest of our lives without.

Til next time....

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